Figuring Out Relationships
Relationships can bring love and support into your life while also raising questions that aren't always easy to answer. This is a space to better understand the relationships that matter to you, from friendships and family to romantic relationships and other meaningful connections. Explore resources to help you notice patterns, communicate more clearly, work through challenges, and consider what you need within your relationships.
Figuring Out Your Relationships
Pause & Practice
Take a Relationship Check-In
You don't have to wait until a relationship is in crisis to think about how it's working.
Choose one relationship that matters to you. It could be with a friend, partner, family member, or someone else who has an important place in your life.
Instead of deciding whether the relationship is “good” or “bad,” use this practice to notice what you're actually experiencing. Think About the Relationship.
Complete these statements:
I appreciate this relationship because...
I feel most connected to this person when...
Something that has been working well between us is...
Something I've been struggling with is...
Something I wish this person understood about me is...
Now consider:
Do I feel able to be myself in this relationship?
Can I communicate when something matters to me?
When we have a problem, what usually happens next?
Does this relationship have room for both of our needs and experiences?
What Is the Relationship Asking for Now?
Based on what you noticed, finish this sentence:
Right now, this relationship could use more ____________________.
It could be communication, time together, honesty, understanding, effort, space, support, fun, or something entirely different.
Then identify one thing within your control that could help you respond to what you've noticed.
Loving someone and knowing whether the relationship is working for you are different questions. Learn what to pay attention to when you're taking an honest look at an important relationship.